Let's Not Be Yourself Today

How are you today? No, not fine, not okay; how are you? Ask yourself that question once in a while. If you’re happy then I've got nothing for you and kudos for figuring out this game; we envy you for that. If you find yourself in a miserable position as I am in then I've got a little something that might motivate you.

I often meet people who are not quite happy with their lives; I ask “What makes you so unhappy? Probably the fact; you don’t have enough” Now how much is actually enough? There’s a 0% guarantee that you’ll get exactly what you want in life and exactly when you want it. Now 0 is a good number, it’s big and round, kind of reflects your persona, you think? You’re right, 0 is something that has no value being alone but if you put it beside other numbers; it becomes the conqueror. So what did you learn from it? You alone cannot do anything, no matter how independent you feel about yourself or no matter how many times you say “I don’t care” because deep down you care, you have to care. You cannot live this life being a 0; you have to find a number who is ready to be beside you. I see people often abusing others; it’s a nice trick to hide one’s insecurities but with this method you can only hide it but cannot make it go away. Your insecurities will stay with you forever unless you learn to face them. Not everyone is perfect and it is only human not to be perfect, so do not run after something that is imaginary and practically not possible instead try to build something that will assure you a ‘meaning’ of your wasted time on Earth. Why don’t you like people? Because they’re opinionated; they have a poor view towards you; they certainly do not agree with your choices; they judge you, if this is the case then you need to ask yourself “Am I ever going to find someone who will never have an opinion?” The answer must be a no, everyone is entitled to his/her own opinion and if you find someone who has none then that kind of person will fall for anything and it’ll probably make him/her spineless, do you want to be with someone like that? It’s their opinion towards you that they don’t like you but you need to know that it’s also your opinion towards them for not liking you. You think they’re bad; they've got nothing on you and you can spend the rest of your life abusing them rather avoiding them. How does that make any difference? They won’t stop judging and you won’t stop judging them for judging you so this will go on and on. No one is going to win. What if you just avoid them? Because it is the trick; they won’t let you be who you are then why paying attention to what they want you to be? Now if you decide to fight back you’ll only waste your precious time and energy, they’re big in numbers; you cannot possibly think that putting your own insecurities on others and disrespecting them and abusing them will get you anything good or will make your life better; that is never going to happen.

Every once in a while talk to yourself about how you feel; there are bitter people around but if you keep bitterness in your heart for them, then it’s only you who is suffering. Instead stop paying attention to the things that don’t matter. Change is the only constant and there will be change in your life too. If you often wonder why nobody likes you well then ask yourself “Do I even like myself?” You have a bitter heart, you've made it yourself and now you wonder? Let’s try being the stronger one here now shall we?

A small example of how it should be: as a Writer if I decide to write a story about a poor female protagonist who struggles through life and finally achieves something; and I go to the publishers’ office who are well known to publish cheesy love stories, I certainly will get a reply like “What do you know the struggling life? You don’t look like the kind who had to struggle to get anything in life. You’re a 20 year old, talking about life; no one will read this because it’s hard to believe. This will not sell.” What do I do after that? Do I blame the publishers for stating the truth? It’s not their fault that they think that way; it’s not their fault that a vast number of people like cheesy love stories over something like I've written. I’ll go find someone who will believe in me; who will know that there are young writers who can tell stories; isn't that the whole point of publishing? A good story can win hearts; probably it won’t sell a lot but those who will read it will experience something different.

It’s not their fault that they’re like that; it’s not your fault that they don’t like you. It’s a constant cycle in the society which has caused this. So blaming others won’t get you anything and blaming yourself? Definitely not; instead why don’t you try being positive about yourself rather being negative about others? Why don’t you find the ones who will like your beautifully written stories rather than abusing those who like cheesy love stories?